Contrary to popular belief, the ups and downs of romantic relationships have a greater effect on the mental health of young men than women, according to a new study by Professor of Sociology Robin Simon.
In the study of more than 1,000 unmarried young adults between the ages of 18 and 23, Simon challenges the long-held assumption that women are more vulnerable to the emotional rollercoaster of relationships. Even though men sometimes try to present a tough face, unhappy romances take a greater emotional toll on men than women, Simon said. They just express their distress differently than women.
Simon’s research is published in the June issue of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior. Anne Barrett, an associate professor of sociology at Florida State University, co-authored the article. “Our paper sheds light on the association between non-marital romantic relationships and emotional well-being among men and women on the threshold of adulthood,” Simon said. “Surprisingly, we found young men are more reactive to the quality of ongoing relationships.”
That means the harmful stress of a rocky relationship is more closely associated with men’s than women’s mental health. The researchers also found that men get greater emotional benefits from the positive aspects of an ongoing romantic relationship. This contradicts the stereotypic image of stoic men who are unaffected by what happens in their romantic relationships.
Simon suggested a possible explanation for the findings: For young men, their romantic partners are often their primary source of intimacy — in contrast to young women who are more likely to have close relationships with family and friends. Strain in a current romantic relationship may also be associated with poor emotional wellbeing because it threatens young men’s identity and feelings of self-worth, she said.
Men and women express emotional distress in different ways, she added. “Women express emotional distress with depression while men express emotional distress with substance problems,” she said.
While young men are more affected emotionally by the quality of their current relationships, young women are more emotionally affected by whether they are in a relationship or not, Simon said. So, young women are more likely to experience depression when the relationship ends or benefit more by simply being in a relationship.
Simon taught at Florida State and the University of Iowa before joining the Wake Forest faculty in 2009. She earned her undergraduate degree in sociology from the University of Massachusetts, Amherst, and her master’s and Ph.D. in sociology from Indiana University.
For the study, Simon and Barrett analyzed data from a large sample of young adult men and women in south Florida. The survey data was originally gathered for a long-term study of mental health and the transition to adulthood.